Yes, I know it's been awhile. It's unfortunately been one of those worst couple weeks of my life, so I took a small hiatus. As some of you know, I lost my new kitten, Frisco, to an uncurable cat disease called FIP. My new car was rear-ended by someone with no license and outdated insurance. I've also been traveling for work a lot so I haven't been able to put in the same effort to my workouts and my paleo diet recently....and on top of that, relationships are sometimes really difficult. People always share when things are good, but many neglect talking about the hard, vulnerable parts of relationships and life.
No, I'm not here to complain, this blog isn't about that! What I wanted to share today is how to cope with the bad times, and slowly move past them. Although we all love to dance in the light, let's remember that sometimes you have to step into the shadows to appreciate the light even more.
Necessary: A Support System
I'll say this now and I'll emphasize it once more...a good support system is ABSOLUTELY necessary to a successful coping period. I am so incredibly grateful to have so many amazing friends, family, and coworkers who have truly shown me so much love and support these last few weeks. It's a nice reminder to see how many good, kind people there are out there. From the vets and my coworkers to my parents and friends...they made it all worth it. When you're coping with a lot of stress, it's important to lean on those around you.
And if some of that stress is coming from a loved one in your life, it's important to rely on the other people in your circle to help figure out that situation. Relationships are messy, they're not always going to be full of happy times. But it's getting through the harder times that make it worth it in the end. I'm a firm believer that you can't truly be with someone if you haven't been able to be 100% vulnerable and worked through difficult times together.
Not Skipping Self-Care
Give yourself time to deal with loss, stress, or trauma. Sometimes that means putting the diet to the side, going to sleep earlier, or making time for a relaxing bath. Treat your body and your mind with proper self-care during difficult times to help release some of that stress. For me, trying to get back into my workouts and back to nature really helps me to push out some of that anxiety and feel at one with myself.
And remember that while self-care and giving yourself a break is important, try to get back to a routine sooner rather than later. It can help you to feel normal again and give you something to focus on.
Last but not least, sometimes things just take time. Practice patience with yourself, with those around you, and the time it will take truly heal. I am definitely not a patient person, in fact, I am the farthest thing from a patient person. But whether it's healing a relationship, recovering from mourning, or just getting out of your funk...the only thing you can for sure be in control of is the patience and your reaction to what happening around you.
Trust me, it's super easy to lose it and go off the deep end, and I think we all let our crazy out once in a while. But it's harder to practice patience and be forgiving of yourself while you heal.
Anyways Ramblers, just be kind to yourself! It sucks when things get crappy, and a lot of times the saying goes that bad things come in three's. But the best thing you can do is put good karma back out in the world, and keep persevering. As the common phrase goes, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going!"
It's time to get going.
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