I’m back. It’s been a crazy week and I know I say that every week but this time I mean it! I’m excited to introduce a new member of the family, and no it’s not a baby lol….it’s a kitten! In the wake of my sweet boyfriend having to move back home to finish up school; we decided on his last day here to that we wanted to purchase a kitten together.
Frisco Gannett is the sweetest five-month-old white kitten, and she comes with a bobbed tail from a previous injury. Needless to say, she is quite the little love, enjoys cuddling and string toys. Watching Tomas spoil, her was a whole other train of cuteness that I could barely handle.
Anyways, this blog is about change. With Tomas having to move back home for the school year, a new kitten, my first car, my first loan…it’s all been very overwhelmingly these last few weeks. Being in a seven-year-long relationship with someone that’s long-distance for all but three months out of the year…it’s difficult. It’s quite a challenging emotional time every time he has to go back home.
I’m grateful that this is the last year before he moves down permanently because I wouldn’t wish the pain of a long-distance relationship on anyone! Don’t get me wrong, it’s still worth it, every single part of it. It’s just a bizarre dichotomy between living as an independent person versus living fully with a significant other and switching back and forth every few months. When I’m alone, my workouts and eat habits are stronger, I get more work done, and I have much more time to dwell on things that I shouldn’t. When he’s here, the adventures are more plentiful, the calendar is packed, and many habits fall to the wayside.
Regardless, it’s important to have a few strategies for coping with immense amounts of change, and as young adults, we tend to get it healthy helpings of it in stride!
1. Start a New Routine
When it feels like you’re out of control of everything in your life, it helps to make small steps towards a new routine. Whether it’s getting a consistent gym schedule back on your calendar, or picking a day to go the grocery store…anything helps! Establishing a routine can help you start to adjust back into the new normal of life.
2. Fall into Change
I of all people know how much change sucks, and I HATE it. But I’ve learned that the quicker you fall directly into the new change, the quicker you adjust. Embrace the changes, whatever they are; and run with it. I’m super bummed that I’m without Tomas now, but I have a new kitten that needs my love and I’m excited to catch up with friends that I haven’t seen in a few weeks. I’m embracing my workout regime again, and I’m excited to get passionate again about my work.
3. Stop Asking Why
I hate long-distance, but I’ve learned to stop asking myself why it had to happen for us, and instead focus on the impact it had. If it wasn’t for our distance, we wouldn’t have grown into the independent, happy people we are today. We’re still actively choosing one another, even over the largest of obstacles; which helps strengthen our relationship immensely. Instead of asking why it happened, focus on what you’re learning from the change in your life. Chances are, it will positively impact your life.
Well, Ramblers, I’m obviously still adjusting as well, and it’s a work in progress. In the meantime, I need to tend to my new kitten, so have a good night. Ramble on!