By Bailey G
I know we’re a bit behind schedule, things have been a bit crazy since both Ann and I are in New York this week! Usually this would be a Monday blog, but we Tuesday work too. I’m super excited for my New York trip, which I’ll blog about later on next week. In the meantime, though, this week is about living with your significant other.
My boyfriend, Tomas, is on a flight back from Italy as we speak, making a quick stop in Montana before coming down here next week. Now, this will be our third summer in a row living together, and we hope to permanently live together as soon as he graduates from MSU. Living with your SO can be hard, but in my opinion, it is the best thing ever. I love the summer time specifically for that reason, because living with Tomas is a true joy. Hopefully these helpful tips below will help you also find joy in living with your SO!
Make the Mundane Fun
This might be a unique talent of Tomas’s, but he has a knack for making even the most boring, mundane tasks interesting. Grocery shopping becomes an adventure, laundry because stand-up comedy, and cooking is a real bonding moment for us. Living together means you have to split the household duties, which can take some getting used to because let’s face it, no one wants to the dishes.
My best advice for making the mundane moments of household living together fun is to bring that same infectious attitude Tomas brings to it. Instead of groaning or complaining, Tomas odes everything with a smile, making it fun or a competition with me. He truly finds ways to bring light into our little home in the most surprising ways, probably because he approaches each situation with a unique curiosity.
Taking the Relationship to the Next Level
No—I don’t mean that level. Living with your SO brings about a new form of intimacy, where you see each other when you’re sick, at worst, morning breath, bathrooms, and all. This can be kind of awkward as you first adjust to living with your SO, and the need to want to go freshen up before he wake up in the morning will tug at you.
But this level of intimacy brought on by living together unveils the perfectly imperfect, letting your partner into that side of you that really isn’t all that pretty, but your average day-to-day self. You both need to be vulnerable and comfortable enough to make that home a safe space and take care of one another when need be.
Keeping “Me” Time
Living with your SO can seem and will be the best thing in the world, but that absolutely doesn’t mean you need spend every single second together. In fact, it’s actually really healthy for you to both have your own hobbies, interests, and friends. Too much time together can be toxic, and you need to still be your own person. Whether it’s carving out a girls night or a couple minutes of him playing video games or you watching Netflix; it’s important to have time that is just yours.
On the other hand, even though you’re living together; don’t forget to make time for each other. And by this I actually mean special quality time. Don’t lose interest in your partner or stop ‘trying’ simply because you live together now. Keep dating, keep flirting, keep planning a special night every once in a while, just for the two of you to be close to each other. We often get so caught up in the business of life, and when you live together it can be easy to push the actual work of a relationship off to the wayside. But everyone wants to keep being special, so make sure your SO feels that even after they move in with you. They key to a successful relationship is to treat your partner every day like you did when you first started in that honeymoon phase of the relationship.
Well, Ramblers, I hope for those of you who are moving in or already living with your SO, that these insider tips are helpful. Remember—it’s a big step for both of you, and each of you needs to be able to make that place a home!