by anne b.
Happy Valentine’s Day Ramblers!
No matter if you’re spending it with your significant other, friends, family, pets, or by yourself; I hope you have a wonderful day filled with love. After all, isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is all about? Love, whether it’s romantic or other? As someone who has spent all 21 of her Valentines as a single girl, I have learned that you can celebrate Valentine’s Day and have a fun and enjoyable time no matter what your relationship status is.
Back in elementary school, Valentine’s Day was such a fun day filled with “Be Mine” candies and folded notes that you would place in all the other students Valentine’s Day bags. For the special people in your elementary school life, you’d get heart-shaped chocolate boxes for your best friends or sports ball chocolate boxes for your crush. Back then, I loved Valentine’s Day because it was a day full of candy, chocolate, and the hopes of getting something special from your crush.
Fast forward to middle school and Valentine’s Day started to get less fun. Since middle school class schedules are different, we couldn’t spend a whole day doing Valentine’s Day stuff as one big class. My friends and I still tried to keep the tradition of giving each other candy by slipping folded notes and chocolates into each other’s lockers, but it just wasn’t the same. Middle school was also that very awkward stage where our bodies are changing and my self-esteem was very low. This made Valentine’s Day more stressful and made me feel more self-conscious than when we were in elementary school, but since most students weren’t in relationships yet, it wasn’t too hard to be single.
The hardest time to be single for Valentine’s Day, in my experience, was during High School. Half of my friend group was coupled up and being around so many couples was definitely hard most of the time. Being single for Valentine’s Day with so many couples around made me feel lonely and desperately wanting a boyfriend to spend this special day with.
I thought college would be even harder than high school, but it actually ended up being better. College is one of those times where you are surrounded by countless people who are all in different places of their lives. Some people are in relationships, some in long-distance relationships, some are single, some are married, and some, well let’s just say it’s complicated. Being around so many people with different relationship statuses actually makes you feel less lonely. Plus, in college I had more friends who weren’t able to spend Valentine’s Day with a significant other, so we were able to spend it together.
Now that I’m not in college, away from my friends, and in a new city, I thought Valentine’s Day would be depressing. But, honestly, one, I am going to be so busy today that I won’t have time to think about being single and two; I have a new mindset when it comes to Valentine’s Day.
To me, Valentine’s Day is a time for love, no matter what kind of love. So, I’m taking this day to spread extra love around. From friends to family to strangers, I want to spread love and kindness like confetti. Obviously, this is something we should all do every day, but I feel like spreading the love today is especially important because of how big this day is in our society. There are some people out there who might not be able to enjoy this day and are feeling lonely. By spreading love unconditionally, you never know whose day you might brighten. Plus, giving all that love to others will probably make your Valentine’s Day better whether you are single or not.
Whether you are single or not, take the time to show your loved ones how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them. Go grab coffee or lunch with them, give them some flowers or chocolates, make them something special, or bake them some cookies. You could also get some friends together to spend the night with. You could cook dinner, bake some cookies, watch a movie, and of course, don’t forget the wine or cocktails.
If your friends aren’t around or you’d rather spend the evening alone, then this is a great time to give some extra love to yourself. Do the things you enjoy and treat yourself to whatever you want this Valentine’s Day. Fix yourself a nice home-cooked meal, bake your favorite dessert, put on a movie, or grab a book if that’s more your style, and let yourself relax from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. After all, loving yourself is the first step to finding that special someone!
Well, Ramblers, that is all I have for you today. Now that I’m done with my single girl’s guide, I’m going to go pass out some homemade vegan chocolate chip cookies I made for Valentine’s Day because that is one of my ways to show love to myself and those around me.
Happy Valentine’s Day and Spread the Love, Ramblers!